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some of yall use "amab" and "afab" as like, a woke substitute for "male" and "female" and its real weird. agab terminology is useful for talking about like, your personal life experiences and very specifically medical and legal problems you might run into. if you use it to describe a stranger then you're just going back to gender essentialism in a new hat. and implying you can clock everyone, to boot.
sorry the idea that there's this Grand Meaningful difference between GNC cis people and trans people is stupid. it's stupid when trans people promote it and it's stupid when transphobes promote it. there are trans people who feel very different than GNC cis people and there are GNC cis people who feel very different than trans people, there are people who feel like both or like they are in the middle.
But more than anything, on a very real level, we are all gender criminals. Crossdressing laws affect us all. Gender roles affect us all. And even more: little kids being allowed to freely experiment with gender helps us all. Letting people identify how they want helps us all. Gender neutral bathrooms and banishing the idea of the "predatory crossdresser/butch" helps us all. If you are GNC and you are transphobic you very much are cutting off your nose to spite your face.
actually i CAN back trans rights and still criticize the cosmetic surgery industry. these ideas aren’t contradictory. i went to a plastic surgeon for top surgery, and i’m grateful that i was able to get that done, but going through that process put an even sharper focus on the fact that an 18 year old cis girl could get breast augmentation with a fraction of the hoops i had to jump through.
I need people to realize "gay men who barely consider themselves men except as a matter of convenience and sexual compatibility logistics" are not some niche esoteric Tumblr thing but a condition an unquantifiably vast portion of us share. Privilege discourse is good when you know what you're talking about, but many are so dogmatic about it they end up viewing men and women as different species and nonbinary people as a neatly delineated third species.
sometimes your owns against homo/transphobes arent funny enough to warrant consciously reminding me that people hate me for immutable characteristics about myself
